I recall an incident last year where I was waiting for the bus, when across the street I witnessed an older gentleman fail to stop and rear-end a nurse, hard, who was going home from her night shift. Almost immediately, the "men" waiting with me, or rather weak and pathetic biologically-born males switched from their Instagram selfies app to the video app and started recording this incident. Nobody, NOBODY thought to respond - instead their first reaction was to be the first to post - its like a passive-aggressive apathy. I yelled at one of them calling them by their jacket colour - to dial 911 and follow me. I also asked him if he new basic first aid, CPR - to which he said NOPE.
We've been so conditioned to depend on technology, that if I had asked that guy to do ABC's he'd have to google it. Smart phones are creating dumb men. Why exercise the brain and gain knowledge through reading and practical training, when we can just "google it." Our reliance on tech has really fostered a lazy learning acumen. "Look that shit up" or "What's it say on Wiki?" So what we end up with are Facebook-smart males who can memorize and regurgitate the op eds they've read or the newest and greatest viral threads - but they won't be able to tell you what the ABC's of first aid is or can they practically apply anything they've read. This is classic "Oh, I really should do something about it...maybe later"
In my mind there are a few character traits that men should possess, and that I see quickly eroding away due to technologies such as smart phones, gaming, and next generation internet (speed, bandwidth).
Men should be able to defend themselves. But they are not. I'm seeing the pussification of man. That is, males who get butthurt over feelings and then they hold a grudge. Conflict is nothing new. Devices and internet has brought conflict into the virtual world, where mono a mono happens through texts, twitter, FB etc. You can call it cyberbullying or whatever, but the fact is face-to-face conflict resolution is not a skillset that is honed and learned anymore. Where's the respect? Where's the courage? Where's the humbleness?
And so, what we get are corporations, policies and bullies preying on these weak-ass males and taking advantage of them being so meek for they know not how to stand up and say NO. Let's take this to its logical end - when virtual politicking ends, and you are required to stand up and fight. Does your weak-ass know how to get physical? Can you throw a punch? Can your lazy and languid body take a gut shot or a jab to the eye? Probably not. Have you even been in a fight? You probably thought that your texting judo can get you out of anything. Perhaps, but its not going to help you manage an unknown contact as you are walking from your favourite hookah/coldbrew coffee bar to your scooter and you see this shady guy coming at you. If you do not have the fortitude to exercise verbal judo or to defend yourself physically - then tech has failed you. And what's worse, is if you are married, and or have kids, you are role-modelling how not to be someone who can protect and keep them safe.
In Part II, I will write about the next trait - men should be able to keep house. Tech is actually making lazy men - not cleaning up after themselves with the expectation that somebody else will do it.